Since the early 70's in America, family sizes have shrunk and immediate family members typically contain 3-4 people these days. That was the case on my mother's side of the family (the Provenzale's). My family included mom (Carole), my brother, Grandma Rose, and Uncle Peter.
Starting in the late 1990's to the early 2000's, the Provenzale's began to shrink. In 1997, Uncle Peter passed away. In 2010, mom was next and in 2013, Grandma Rose said her goodbyes. With each passing it was a family tradition to spread the ashes. The location of choice has always been within the surrounding area of Provincetown, MA.
This weekend, I made a special 2 day trip to P'Town in honor of the last Provenzale family member, which was Grandma Rose. With each trip it became custom to visit two local restaurants in town to say hello to the owners, as they knew the Provenzale's very well. This time, to my surprise, I learned both owners no longer resided at the restaurants or lived in P'Town. This meant any direct physical connection to the Provenzale's has been cut. Spreading Grandma Rose's ashes was truly symbolic to the end of an era.
Yes, to a certain degree this is sad, while at the same time its an opportunity to create new adventures, new memories, and new stories to pass on to the next generation of family and share with friends. I have to say, the spirit of the Provenzale's assisted in one heck of a sendoff. This P'Town visit was full of adventure and fun! What a way to honor such a beautiful legacy and begin a new one.
Laura Cerrano is a second-generation Certified New York City Feng Shui Expert. As a full-time consultant, Laura provides bi-coastal consultations and workshops for residential, commercial, real estate developments, Fortune 500 companies and healing faculties. In addition, Laura is a resident teacher at the Metropolitan Institute of Design in Syosset, NY. She has been featured in highly respected publications and TV networks such as Bravo's "Watch What Happens Live with Andy Cohen," PBS, CBC Television, BBC Radio and The New York Times.