Expectations: We all have them. Sometimes they are a good thing, we have some wonderful outcome to look forward to but often we forget that our expectations of a circumstance may not be what we wanted; they may be something to teach us a lesson, outcomes change, things are different and some people are very intolerant of change (which, in my opinion, is one SURE thing you can count on).
My "Expectations" of my trip were to see some wonderful sights, meet some terrific people, experience things I would not have had an opportunity to. I was looking forward to nothing but the BEST and that's probably exactly why I got it.
They say you never really know someone until you travel with them. Take them out of their element and you can see a radical difference in how they react to different circumstances. Such was the case with my travel companion, a strictly platonic friend I have known for years. Unfortunately, his expectations were "problems and issues" -- from everything ranging from our not speaking the language, "hearing" that French people don't like "us" ( a complete misconception as far as I'm concerned) to any possible problem that might come up---he anticipated them, almost waited for them and that is what he experienced during his visit.
I was open to speaking to people, to asking if they could speak English or trying to communicate in another way....signs, showing them a map when we were lost and they would often show a huge smile when they "got" what I was trying to ask them, pointing me in the right direction or even going out of their way to find someone who could communicate better. And I would become very happy when I understood them! In asking others, a simple question would often become a discussion which turned out to provide wonderful advise on what to see and do in their beautiful city. I did not meet any resistance because I did not expect any.
My travel companion, on the other hand, often got frustrated and angry. I noticed that people did not respond at all to him the way they responded to me and it was because of the energy he was giving off. Someone who is not able to go with the flow and let a day unfold the way it is supposed to, even if it wasn't in your "plans" is not emitting anything positive and that is strongly sensed. After the second day, I took over all issues completely when I saw that he was upset even ordering from a menu.
His experience of this lovely trip were indifferent people, trying to breeze through a few things to say he "saw" them, and getting frustrated over every issue that was "different" then at home which included just about everything: the television stations, the money, total inability to deal with the airlines and expected delays and just generally found what he viewed as "unpleasant" aspects through the trip. Mine was completely the opposite. Being open and trying to communicate, I met the best people who went out of their way (some really out on a limb) to help and accommodate and exchange wonderful discussions which included everything from Feng Shui (they have a profound interest in this subject as well as a belief in it, having had it done for the Louvre of which they are extremely proud of) to what life, in general, is like in the US. And I made a few lasting connections there which I will talk about in my next post.
Back to Expectations: As in Feng Shui AND The Secret, your intentions and the laws of attraction come right back to you. Expect the best out of life and that's likely what you'll get back. And something I have had on my website since the day I had it created, most of all, GO WITH THE FLOW. The Universe sometimes has it's own plans for you and they can be much better than anything you had in mind!
Carole, I'm so glad you experienced what you expected to experience when in Paris and I'm sorry your travelling companion was not a more positive one. Your post is a wonderful example of how two people, even though travelling together, can be immersed in entirely different fields of energy at seemingly the same time and location.
Jo
Hi Carole,
Good post. Having read The Secret and now reading Laws of Attraction you really do get back what you put out there. It is just to bad more people didn't realize this, as I am sure it would make a of people's lives much easier.
I'm guessing that a month from now, your friend will be telling all about the amazing trip (with, of course, the amazing friend). Some people are just not "wired" to deal with travel. It's my guess that while you saw it objectively, your friend has no idea that he puts out this kind of "vibe", and never will. Nonetheless, he likely had a wonderful time.
Carole...I feel badly for your friend. He had to have started out with high hopes!
Some people just don't do well out of their element! And everything in your situation was different! Too bad...
So glad you enjoyed it though!
Ginger, Thank you. I did expect the best and I got it!
Teri, That's exactly what he was doing, pushing people away....inadvertently or not, people sense that. They also know when you're genuine and I was so thrilled there, nothing was going to get me down :)
Susan, I believe so too. People don't realize the power of their own energy, it's the strongest essence we have. Thanks for the comment.
Sally, I did, people that I will be in touch with and hopefully see one day again.....I hope to post that tomorrow, the FUN stuff.
Sheron, I somehow don't doubt that you Go with the Flow too. It's so much nicer and everything works out anyway, most of the time better then you could have "planned" it.
Jo, It's actually better I saw another side of him I probably wouldn't have seen. I want happy people around me, not negative ones and thankfully I didn't let him interfere with MY good time.
Trace, So many people resonate with the Secret, I'm so glad it's now mainstream. It's funny that many of us have known this for years and used it but sort of stumbled on it. Now everyone can find it and choose to live it.
Laurie, I'm sure he is SAYING he had a wonderful time but he was just too frustrated and upset all the time to enjoy much of it. I never saw anyone so unadaptable :)
Lizette, it is true, you don't know someone until you travel with them. Yes, I could have done the trip by myself and that's an empowering thought! But it can be so much FUN with good energy people.
I am glad you were able to enjoy the trip in spite of your friend's inability to deal with the obstacles along the way. You are so right, we get what we expect. It has been said in so many way through history--the Bible says, you reap what you sow. Thank you for always pointing out the positive.
I went on a vacation once with someone and experienced what you have described. I think it's wonderful how you continued to view things in a positive manner. It can be challenging when you have negative energy of which you would have been unable to escape.
Joan, I think he did start out with high hopes but he saw everything as a problem...it's actually a shame for him, he could have had a wonderful time!
Cynthia, Maybe he learned something, I'm hoping so. Being inflexible is not a good way to go through life. Thanks for your comment.
Deb, He created his own time...and I was able to create mine thank goodness. So it was still a wonderful trip (for me :) Thank you for stopping by.
Tiffany, Thank you for your comment. You're SO right, it should be about the unknown and adventure! My feelings tell me he will never leave the States again, what a shame!