A Very Special Feng Shui Home in Long Island New York? Home is Where the HEART I
My wonderful Aunt told me something years ago that I've never forgotten: "Be Careful of the Memories you make today, they will be what you live off of when you get older. Make them Happy Ones."
Maybe it struck such a cord with me because she was so right. When I visit my mother who is 87 years old and in failing health I notice that her favorite things to talk about are the "old days." She has the BEST memories and it's why I've written so much about my childhood.
She stirs the wonderful memories in me and I take care to try and make MORE wonderful memories. She's asked me quite often that if something was to happen to her, if I would want to live in her house. I told her, quite honestly that because so many members of my family had passed the memories might be too difficult.
She said something to me the other day that stopped me in my tracks. She said "Your Memories are in your Heart, not just your Home. You will take them with you wherever you go."
Since I relate so much to Feng Shui and the Emotions of a Home I'm not sure why I hadn't thought of it in this particular way before. What better place then my childhood home then to always have the wonderful Memories not only in, but AROUND me.
These days when I go over to visit I will put Frank Sinatra on for her....and bring her bits of HER favorite memories if I can find them. I found these on Ebay. Actually, hers I had put into a frame and while it took a second for her to realize what they were, it spurned in her so much joy of the ‘good old days.' Quite a bargain at under $10.00
Remember the Good Old Days? Wantagh Long Island New York
Make Your Days Count: They will Someday be your Memories.
Feng Shui Long Island & New York City Consultant
http://www.LongIslandFengShui.com
*Carole Provenzale has been a Certified Feng Shui Consultant since graduating from the Country's very first School for Feng Shui Studies that was licensed and accredited in 1997. Carole provides on site Feng Shui Consultations on Long Island NY, Queens New York and New York City.
Carole, I'm off to Arizona on Thursday to make more memories with my parents. It sounds like you had a wonderful upbringing. That is such a blessing!
Hi Carole...your Mum is correct your memories are with you where ever you go, and as we get older, we seldom forget our past..only the things we did yesterday. Spent time with your Mum, I did when my Mum was in her twilight years and I'm glad I did.
Awwh you're a sweetheart - and your mom sounds wonderful - why am I not surprised? That's what I say to my clients when they're sad about moving - they're leaving behind the house - but the 'home' and the memories come with them! :-)
Your memories about some of your childhood were much needed today. THANKS!!! You must be so proud to have a sweet Mom. I love to talk about mine too. Great post!!
I tell my kids this all the time, memories are in your heart. They are adverse to selling our home where we moved when the youngest was 1 and the oldest 10. Yes, we have a ton of memories here, but reality is the memories are in our hearts.
Carole, what a wise Mom and Aunt you have. I'm certain you've picked up some of that wisdom as well.
When did they phase out those books altogether? When i arrived to this country in the 70's they still had them. When did they disappear?
Carole, What a great story. Memories around me do make me happy. But from a Feng Shui perspectiveI'm a little surprised. I would think these "things" would keep you from moving forward - or is there any relationship? Do "things" keep us in the past or propel us forward in our lives?
Memories are one thing no one can take from you. No matter where you go they are always there. And, you can find just about anything on Ebay! :)
What a heartwarming post carole - you are soo right memories are precious....The memories of my parents are passed on to my girls in the form of cherished stories and each photograph has a memory and story to go with it... thanks for sharing yours!
Sincerely,
Grace
Such a lovely, post Carole-memories warm our hearts and make lasting heart prints in our souls!
Carole,
What a lovely and thoughtful thing for you to do for your MOm! She's a very wise and loving woman and I can see that you take so much after her, and after your Dad who I remember you saying was so warm and caring too.
Jo
As my marketing guru always says, "Make sure you visit your loved ones often, interview them, asking them about their lives, the olden days, and write them down, record them, or videotape them."
Marchel, I'm thrilled to hear that and hope you have an absolutely fantastic trip!
Fred, I do spend time with her....lots of time. Then again, I always have :)
Liz, I know she has always loved her house....from the minute she saw it. But she is right about where your memories really are and it's taken me time to see that.
Lizette, She is the best of mothers...fun, funny and always kind. It's sad seeing her so frail but she's home with Pierre in her house that she love.
Missy, They were always so closedly connected to the home as well....but she's very right, they will go with me wherever I take them.
Maggie, I don't remember, honestly, when they phased them out but I do remember growing up with them and how we'd sit for hours and paste those stamps in. There were around a long time and I'm happy it brought back a nice memory for her (and me!).
Dena, No, I never believe happy memories hold you back....I believe they inspire and remind you to move forward and just remember all the love and happiness. I never ask my clients to let go of things they love, to me that's not a Feng Shui principles because they are surrounded with happy memories.
Jackie, I know, I love that place. When I'm looking for my next designer handbag I'm contacting you!
Grace, It sounds like your mom made some wonderful memories and has passed them down to very, very special people in her life. To me they are what the future is built on.
Cathy, What a beautiful way you put it! They do live in our hearts and we can take them wherever we go!
Jo, It was so much fun to find them....I can't believe that people save everything! Hers are much nicer, we put them in a frame and although it took her a minute, it brought back so much joy.
Jim, I did not do that with my Grandmother and I'm so sorry I didn't. Their lives were treasures and I remember very well all the stories she told me but they are not documented. What a shame.
How terrific that you have such a good relationship with your mother and have had such a good family life. What a sweet post Carole!